“My coach started working with me a couple of days after I had quit drinking, after a particularly bad “last drunk”. He moved into my spare bedroom, and was present in the mornings, evenings, over the weekends, and sporadically during the work day.  I had a suspended driver’s license for the first few weeks, and he also served as a temporary driver, which really helped. He worked with me primarily in the following areas:

A.  Getting through the first few weeks

B.  Getting connected to the local AA community

C.  Eating and nutrition, health, medical and dental update

D.  Plans and tactics for long-term sobriety.

E.  Life changes I should consider

 

  • “But probably the most important function my coach served during this time was just being there, and keeping me busy. Being alone is a problem for someone in my position at that stage. By being there, he provided someone to talk to, someone to ask leading questions, and something to occupy me other than brooding on my drinking.
  • An equally important thing he did during this period, and indeed regularly all through this period, was to introduce me to specific individuals within the AA community that he knew. He hoped that some of these people would become friends, and give me a feeling of connectedness with AA.”
  • “My coach is a great chef and initially made most of our meals. We would also eat out fairly often. He introduced me to the idea of eating a home-made fruit smoothie in the morning, which I have continued to do. We bought more healthy foods, whole-grain cereals, nutritious snacks, etc. I have lost about 50 lbs, and am slowly losing more. Still have a considerable way to go, but I feel enormously better now.”
  • “I was overdue for a visit to the doctor, dentist, and optometrist. He prompted me to make appointments to do all of these, and even assisted in finding a new dentist... I have new prescriptions, a couple of new crowns, more on-going dental work, and new glasses. I walk quite a bit more now….”
  • “Generally my coach is pretty good at prompting (or nagging) me into doing this kind of stuff without crossing the line into being annoying and inciting rebellious resistance.”
  • “The statistics about outcomes for people in the position I was in are not encouraging. I owe gratitude to him for his help and patience with me, and to my Company for making this possible. I’ve not always been as cooperative as possible. Nonetheless, I am confident that the future will work out better, and this is something else to be enormously thankful for.”
  • “Apparently there are personality characteristics that tend to be common to alcoholics, and one of them is the tendency to worry about things that in the final analysis we have no control, or even influence over. Learning to let these go, and worry about things I can control, is a valuable lesson. For the first time in quite a while, I’m fairly optimistic about my personal future.”